• Monica

Re-inventing Yourself

I came across an article the other day on CNBC titled, ‘Shark Tank’ judge Barbara Corcoran: How to reinvent yourself" and I realized I couldn't stop thinking about it for days onward. It was weird.

Before Barbara was a judge on Shark Tank she was a highly successful real estate investor, but she knew she wanted to be more than that. She wanted to be on TV.

So she sat down and took a look at who she was, her top traits, and what she loved to do. She compiled a list of all these things and discovered that with these traits and strengths she possessed now, she could take and use them into the TV career she desired for her future. Anything left that she didn't possess, and that she knew she would need to make her move into television a success, she would learn and try to achieve. Easy, right?

"Maybe for Barbara...," you might say. Or, you might agree,"I can do that, too".

Whichever side you are on, the burning question did she do it and do it successfully?

We'll get to that.

But first, it's important I mention that she said something I completely disagree with.

She said, "You can't change, but you can re-package yourself." As a Life Coach, those first three words caused me to shudder. Because whenever you take the first step and get a good, hard look at yourself, that act in itself shows you:

What you have and what you don't have.

Who you are and who you need to be.

What needs to change.

And that change starts with you changing first. I mean, in order to "re-package yourself" you essentially have to make some changes to inner yourself, right? Changes like:

Being Bold. Curious. Willing. Uncomfortable. Active. Unafraid.

If in my earlier question you were the one who sided with, "maybe reinventing yourself is easy for Barbara, but for me it's not" then are you willing to do what she did that I do agree with?

She started by looking within. With honesty. With discernment. Without a hard-lined ego. Without delay.

Now I don't know if Barbara has someone on her side to keep her accountable to herself. She seems like a pretty hard-core mamma-jamma that when she puts her mind to something she does it without hesitation or self-doubt.

But what about the rest of us who aren't quite there yet?

What if you had someone there to ask you those hard questions about yourself (you know, the ones that make you feel vulnerable and uncomfortable) like why you believe the sad things you do about yourself, and why you make choices that hurt you instead of help you? What if that was all you needed, just as Barbara knew what she needed, to give you the start, just the start, to re-invent yourself? Or rather as I like to put it, to REVIVE your true self so you can show up differently to the world?

And when you've done that, why not shout it to others? Let it be known that you have done the work to change, you created the change, and you are the change! And shout it out to Barbara while you're at it! I feel like she's the kind of lady who would appreciate it.

One of my favorite scripture verses is from Matthew 7:14. It reads, "But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it."

"That's fo sho!", said anyone who has ever done inner work on themselves.

If you're just a little bit unsure about making the change to revive, reinvent, or repackage yourself, then consider talking to someone about it who you trust. Someone who won't rush giving you advice, someone who won't judge you, or feel sorry for you. Find someone who will listen not only to your words, but to your heart and see where it goes from there. Just by talking it out with someone, you may be surprised at what opens up for you from within.

It's a start.

If you'd like to check out Barbara's video on reinventing yourself, please visit:

Loyal to your well-being,